As a man, my perception of the world and my place in it is often shaped by the idea of struggle and competition. Understanding this can provide insight into why I act the way I do. Let me share how I perceive the world and the role that fighting plays in my daily life.
My Daily Battles
Every day, I face numerous small and large challenges. These battles might seem insignificant to an outsider, but they are a constant part of my life. For instance, when I’m walking down a narrow pavement and see another man approaching, a part of me wonders who will step aside first. This simple act becomes a small, invisible battle. If the other man steps aside first, I feel a small sense of victory. If I step aside first, I feel a slight defeat.
The Need to Prove Myself
This constant need to fight and prove myself is deeply ingrained. From a young age, I’ve been taught to measure my worth through achievements and status. I compare myself to other men, assessing my position in the social hierarchy. My job, my earnings, my physical strength, even my possessions like my car, all contribute to how I see myself.
Fighting in Relationships
In relationships, this mindset can sometimes lead to misunderstandings. For example, if my partner shares her feelings, my instinct is to offer solutions. This is my way of showing competence and value. However, she might just want empathy and support, not solutions. This difference in approach can make her feel unheard, while I feel frustrated for not being appreciated for my efforts to solve the problem.
The Importance of Winning
Winning, even in small ways, makes me feel good. It affirms my worth and my place in the world. Conversely, constant defeat can make me feel inadequate. This need for victory drives many of my actions, from career ambitions to personal achievements. It’s not just about the big victories; even small wins in everyday life contribute to my sense of self-worth.
The Role of Competition
Competition is a constant in my life. Whether it’s for a promotion at work, for social recognition, or even for the attention of a woman, I am always competing. This creates a tense environment, as I am always striving to prove myself and to climb higher in the hierarchy.
The Impact of Small Battles
These small battles, like who steps aside on the pavement, might seem trivial, but they add up. They create a constant state of tension and competition. This mindset extends to all areas of my life, from professional endeavors to personal interactions. Each small victory or defeat shapes my self-perception and my behavior.
Understanding My Perspective
Understanding this perspective can help in bridging the gap in relationships. It’s important to recognize that these small battles and the need to fight are part of how I perceive the world. By acknowledging this, it’s possible to create a more supportive and understanding environment.
Improving Communication
To improve communication, it’s crucial to express needs and feelings clearly. For example, I’ve learned to say, “I need some time to think,” instead of shutting down emotionally. Active listening and showing genuine interest in each other’s perspectives also help build a stronger connection.
Conclusion
As a man, fighting and competition are integral parts of my life. From small daily battles to major life challenges, these struggles shape my self-perception and behavior. Understanding this can help in improving relationships and communication. By acknowledging and respecting each other’s perspectives, we can build stronger, more supportive connections.
These insights have helped me understand myself better, and I hope they provide a useful perspective for others as well. Remember, for men, the fight is a constant part of life, and recognizing this can be a key to better relationships and understanding.
Founder of Edoramus. Professional lecturer. Author of online course for women “How to understand men?“.