Knowing how I see myself as a man is very important. It shapes my actions and interactions, especially in relationships.
Men and women see themselves differently, and these differences affect how we act and talk.
Let’s look at how I see myself and how women see themselves.
Women’s Self-Perception: Connection and Relationships
Women often see themselves through their relationships.
They feel fulfilled by their roles as mothers, friends, and colleagues.
For example, a woman might feel good about herself because of her close bonds with family and friends.
Relationships are a big part of how women see themselves and their place in the world.
Men’s Self-Perception: Hierarchy and Status
As a man, my self-perception is based on hierarchy and status.
From a young age, I’ve learned to measure my worth by my achievements and my position in society.
My job title, salary, physical strength, and even the car I drive contribute to how I see myself.
I constantly compare these things with other men to know where I stand.
Impact on Behavior in Relationships
This mindset influences my behavior. For example, when there’s a problem, I try to offer solutions to show my competence.
I believe that by fixing things, I prove my worth.
However, this approach can sometimes be misunderstood, especially by women who might just want to share their feelings and seek empathy.
Avoiding Vulnerability
I often avoid showing vulnerability because I’ve been taught to see it as a weakness.
Instead of expressing my emotions, I might stay silent or focus on tasks that affirm my status.
This silence can be seen as indifference, but it’s my way of processing my thoughts and staying calm.
Misunderstandings in Relationships
These differences can lead to misunderstandings in relationships.
For example, when my partner shares her feelings, she seeks connection and emotional support.
But my response is to find a solution, which can make her feel unheard.
Similarly, when I strive to achieve and maintain status, I seek respect and acknowledgment.
If my efforts aren’t recognized, I feel unappreciated.
Improving Communication
To improve communication, we need to acknowledge these differences. Active listening is crucial.
Paying attention and showing genuine interest helps build a stronger connection.
It’s also important to express needs clearly.
For example, I’ve learned to say, “I need some time to think,” instead of shutting down emotionally.
Acknowledging Efforts
Recognizing and appreciating each other’s efforts makes a big difference.
When my partner acknowledges my work or problem-solving efforts, it makes me feel valued.
Similarly, I’ve learned to appreciate her emotional support and the way she nurtures our relationships.
Conclusion
How men and women see themselves is crucial in shaping their actions.
For men, it’s often about hierarchy and status, while for women, it’s about connections and relationships.
By acknowledging and respecting these differences, we can improve our communication and build stronger, more meaningful relationships.
Founder of Edoramus. Professional lecturer. Author of online course for women “How to understand men?“.